I don’t know about you, but I’d feel pretty darn awful if I made a snap judgment that he was lazy only to find out that this man has lost everything he loved in this life, is trying his best to keep going AND still helping others as much as he can. The car belonged to his wife, and he gave the tires to a single mom down the street who desperately needed them. That “clutter” is some of her stuff that he’s donating to charity. Even if he had the money to fix his house, he’s too heartbroken and lost without his wife of 30 years to find the energy or will to do it. Now, what if I told you that the man who owns it just lost his wife to cancer? Most of their money went to medical bills, and he used what was left to give her a beautiful memorial service. It’s easy to see that and think, “Wow, that guy has no pride! He must be lazy!” Imagine that he has a broken fence, clutter on the porch, and a car up on blocks in the driveway. Let’s go back to those examples I used earlier to discuss this, starting with the man with a rundown house.
#In the house in a heartbeat appearances full#
We can’t know a person’s full story from a glance at their cover. doesn’t really tell us a thing about their real story. Just like a glance at a book cover never really gives us the full scope of the story inside, a glance at a person’s clothing, car, home, etc. More than that, though- more than making us act ignorant- it makes us truly ignorant, in the dictionary definition of the word. Make no mistake about it, assuming the worst about people based on a single glance is bad behavior. At some point, “it’s human nature” stops being a good excuse for bad behavior. The thing is, we’re not living in caves anymore, and saber-tooth tigers have been extinct for 10,000 years (I actually thought it was a lot longer ago than that, but I looked it up). It’s human nature, probably some sort of throwback to our days in caves when we literally HAD to make snap judgments based on appearances or risk getting eaten by a saber tooth tiger. We tell ourselves their entire life story with one glance. We take one look at someone or something and make a snap judgment about who they are. That teenager with a spiked green mohawk? Violent antisocial anarchist. That mom with kids in dirty clothes at the store? Neglectful. That man with a rundown house? Must be lazy. They say, “never judge a book by its cover,” but we still do every day. Let’s discuss! Please Stop Assuming the Worst of People Based on Appearances Alone It’s high time we stop assuming the worst of people based on appearance alone, don’t you think? After all, appearances are incredibly deceiving and NEVER tell the whole story.